Yup. I'm dealing with this bullcrap at work and it really sucks. But try telling an NT, "hey, so actually, my perception of the world in general and emotions in particular is far more nuanced and intense than yours and the only reason you don't get that is because you lack the capacity for it partially as a result of your so-called normal neurological arrangement and partially a result of how you've been conditioned and socialized." It is EXHAUSTING.

I'm actively being bullied by this one woman and I've explained very clearly to her the problem, explained it to a few colleagues, explained it to supervisors and ... no, I have to accomodate her. Because she's supposedly normal, and I'm not. Oh, sorry, I just said the quiet part out loud. Oh dearie me.

To be honest, I'm relatively fine with having sort of distant relationships or even none at all, but it really irritates me when neurotypicals either medicalize my behaviour or tell me I'm using autism as an excuse. I've got a few friends who I don't think I'll ever be that close with because to them I'm not really a full person. I'm someone they find funny, someone they can poke fun at, someone who makes them jealous from time to time, but never someone who they'll celebrate as they would their "normal" friends. And I really wish they'd just be honest.