There’s never a right or even wrong decision when dealing with something like cancer, particularly in kids. God willing, he will survive and be able to engage in normal activities like other kids his age. Yeah, it looks a little weird, but everyone is a bit strange in their own manner. I expect you’ll be in for it when he reaches adolescence, but ultimately I really believe you will all be okay. If you made this decision as a family, and it sounds like you did, it’s going to be okay. He’s smiling in some of these pictures. And he’s alive. So what if he’s got one little thing that’s a little weird? Basically the only thing he can’t do would be professional ballet, and even there I’m sure if that were his dream he’d be able to achieve it. He won’t be confined to a wheelchair, he’ll be able to care for himself as an adult, he can participate in athletics of all sorts. There will be some awkward moments and yeah, people are going to be jerks from time to time. But he will have survived cancer. He’s going to have more strength and resilience than most of his peers. It’s okay. Be there for your boy, be honest with him, and he will be okay.

Doctor of Palaeopathology, rage-prone optimist, stealth berserker, opera enthusiast, and insatiable consumer of academic journals.

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